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Ever since "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists" by Neil Strauss men have been relentlessly negging women at bars. That's right: women nag, and now men neg. Don't know what I'm talking about? Don't worry, you're about to get a crash course on how to seduce dim-witted women with low self-esteem. If you've already struck out with the ladies, now you can apply your new skills to a much more financially rewarding set of people: recruiters.

Opening a Set
How does it work in bars? Opening a set is essentially entering amongst a group of people. You need to get "in" with all the people in the group before you can take one of the women home. Try to introduce yourself casually and not smell of desperation. Open with a non-intimidating question like "I'm trying to settle an argument with my friend…do you think flirting is cheating?" Girls don't want to feel like you're trying to pick them up…it spooks them and makes them think you're a loser.

How does it work in recruiting? Recruiters are similar in that they don't want to feel like they're being sold or pandered to. Don't be overly aggressive, but also don't hesitate. That eau d' apprehension you're wearing screams "Dear God why would anyone give me a job?! I suck!" Introduce yourself and ask an interesting, non-intimidating question. You wouldn't ask a girl if her boobs are fake when you just meet here so don't ask a recruiter questions that would put them on the defensive.

Demonstrating Value
How does it work in bars? You demonstrate value to a girl by show your status. Tell stories that convey how awesome you are without actually spelling it out. People with good reputations don't go around talking about their reputations. Show it indirectly. Mention things with status in your stories like skiing or celebrities (but only cool ones…keep Miley Cyrus out of it). Women love status.

How will it work on recruiters? Recruiters also eat up the indirect approach. Quick mentions of your fabulosity without directly saying it is the only way to go. Talk about things with status in their industry, not your old one. Your old industry is Miley Cyrus.

Negging
How does it work in bars? Negging is similar to a back-handed compliment. It makes the girl feel insecure so that she'll sleep with you. Yes, that's actually how it's supposed to work. Word of caution: if you actually find a girl who will fall for it, she probably has STDs. Something goes something like ""Ahhh, that's so funny ... you nose moves when you speak (pointing and being cute). Look there it goes again ... its so...quaint...haha look!"

How will it work on recruiters? It doesn't. Don't do it. They're not insecure enough because they have all the power and they know you want them bad.

AMOG-ing
How does it work in bars? AMOG refers to the Alpha Male of the Group. Usually with a group of women there will be some douchebag. Like the male lion in a pride, his job is to keep other male lions away. You have to neutralize him by either becoming his friend or making him look stupid. The consequences of the latter may be a bit more dangerous.

How will it work on recruiters? There will always be loud, obnoxious people in crop circles. You have to neutralize them to get a word in edge-wise. In this case, being their friend is better than making them look stupid which in turn makes you look like a jerk. They dominate the conversation, but instead of interrupting, respond to something they say and then turn the conversation. Everyone will appreciate it.

The Kiss Close
How does it work in bars? So you've opened a set, you showed your value, you shut down the other contenders, and now it's time to close the deal. Isolate the target (the woman of your dreams), do some more fancy footwork (stuff you've prepared and practiced before), and go in for the close. If you play your cards right, you can end up with more than just a kiss.

How will it work on recruiters? First, don't kiss the recruiters. We'll rename this one the "Card Close." Again, try to isolate the recruiter in order to get some quality one-on-one time. Wrap things up with stuff you've prepared and practiced and ask for a card. Send a thank-you e-mail, refer to that funny thing you guys talked about, get the interview. Done.

Congratulations, you are now a seduction / recruiting artist.

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